RE: Hive-Naija Weekend Engagement #69- “TRUST ISSUES”

This question isn’t just a topic for discussion, it’s real life. In today’s Nigeria, where things are tough and the cost of living keeps rising, this conversation is more relevant than ever.

Back in the day, our parents and grandparents got married mostly for love, they didn’t have much, but they had each other. Many of them started with almost nothing, sleeping on a mat, soaking garri, building a home from scratch, they had a strong belief that love conquers all and somehow, they made it work.

But today? The game has changed.This generation is asking different questions. People are openly saying things like, “Love doesn’t pay bills,” or “I can’t marry someone who’s still struggling.” And can' we really blame them? Life in Nigeria is hard,from rent, to school fees, to food, to even transport, Omo, everything costs money. So now, people are thinking with both their hearts and their heads.

Now, let me get personal.Would I marry someone I deeply love even if they are struggling financially?

Yes I will, but only if there’s vision and effort.
I believe in love. But I also believe that love should be paired with direction, If someone is struggling financially but has a clear plan, drive, and the discipline to grow, I’m ready to stand with them. I’m not afraid of humble beginnings as long as we’re not planning to stay stagnant in one spot. I can support a partner who is actively working on becoming better,to me that’s what true partnership is about.

However, I won’t lie, love without stability can become a burden. If the person I love isn’t serious about their life, has no goals, and expects love to carry us through everything, then we’re setting ourselves up for hardship. And love that brings constant pain and worry starts to lose its sweetness.

So which should come first?Love or financial stability

Financial stability should come before marriage, but love should not be ignored.
Both are important, but money brings structure and peace of mind, It helps love breathe. I’m not saying you have to be a millionaire before you marry, but at least be responsible. Have something going, know where you’re headed, be ready to build.

Love is powerful but in Nigeria today, love without money can test your mental health, your patience, and your joy. We need to be honest with ourselves.

In the end, I believe love and financial stability should go hand in hand like ninja jollof and fried plantain, One shouldn’t cancel the other out. If we can find a partner who gives us both, someone who loves us deeply and is committed to growth then we’re blessed.

Let’s be real In this generation, we don’t just want love, We want love with peace and that peace often starts with financial security.

What do you think @xaralight @peaq @deera @amma @emlynx? Let’s talk in the comments.

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