WHEN SHE THINKS SHE KNOWS BETTER, BUT SHE'S PLAYING WITH FIRE
There are so many things in life that I wish that I have done differently. I have seen where people will choose to go back in time like 10 years ago so that they start afresh over being offered a huge amount of money. This goes a long way to tell you how precious and priceless time actually is.
In view of this i told myself that since one cannot actually go back in time that it's my duty to guide my young ones on the right path to follow so they won't make the kind of mistake that I made in my own time. My daughters are 8 and 6 years old thus they are much more easier to advice than my younger sisters who were in their early twenties.
My immediate younger sister posted in my family whatapp group five months ago that she was due to go for the one year compulsory national youth service and she would need financial assistance from us to be able to work her posting to the east. This sounds great to my other siblings as we wouldn't want her to be posted to the far north. There I decided to give her a good advice that will help her life and career as well.
I told her that since she wanted to work her posting that she should make good use of the opportunity and work it to a city that has career opportunities like Abuja, Lagos and Portharcourt. There is 80% chances of her landing a good job upon her passing out parade from NYSC. I also told her to forget about boys for now because I was very much aware that her reason for wanting to work her posting to Delta state was for her to stay close to her boyfriend.
She must have seen me as an enemy of progress as far as her relationship is concerned.
She failed to understand where I was coming from when I told her to forget about boys. The probability of both of them ending up together is just 40% and I see no reason why she should not choose herself first instead of the relationship. I told her that she serving in another city doesn't mean that they will break up but it will avail her a good opportunity to find a good job after her service.
My siblings were all impressed with the advice that I gave to her and they asked her to put it into consideration. She however sent me the most annoying test message that read...
Thanks but no thanks; I have got my life under control.
When i read that message, I felt so disappointed in her and I was angry too. I just ignored her message and right there I made up my never to tell her what to do again. Her call up letter eventually came out and just as she wanted she was posted in Asaba, Delta state.
What's happening in Asaba by the way? You have so much life ahead of you babe. Pray tell, why you don't want to go out there and explore the myriads of opportunities in the cities that i told you about?
These questions kept playing in my mind over and over again but I kept them to myself as I have decided never to tell her what to do again since she thinks that she knew better than me.
Well I wished her goodluck though.
This is my response to the Dreemport challenge and Thinkers Corner prompt for this week, hosted by @kenechukwu97
I think when you tell people to not do the thing that brings them some form of delight, you'd always look like the enemy at first glance. I'm sorry that your sister shut you off that way. She clearly didn't know better.
I think its okay to still ask about her well-being, though. In as much as she may have being rude earlier, your concern could actually mean a lot to her. I wish both of you the best together.
Ofcourse, I want the best for her and I always ask about her wellbeing too
A misunderstanding of this magnitude between siblings always feels uncomfortable to witness. It happens though. These things are sometimes unavoidable, especially when she has already made up her mind about the approach to take.
I know it's painful to have your genuine advice turned around to make you look like someone that doesn't care. However, you know what you did and you know the steps you took to get to where you are in life.
I hope she doesn't take too long to learn the importance of setting her life straight. Also, you don't have to hold yourself back from checking up on her. That's the cross of an older sibling. Hehe.
You are right. I believe she will eventually learn what I want to teach her someday.
amiableamara(64) there is a way seemeth right to a man but the end is destruction. It's experience that many who thinks they know it all do always experience at last.
That's it. The best one can do is wish them good luck. Time is precious, a big money that should be valued because when it is wasted, you can't get it back.
There'll be a time she'll advise someone too and she'll know how it feels too.
Exactly. I know that with time she will get to know that I am only after her welfare.
Yes, and by then, time would have passed on her with age.
Anyway, people need to have first-time experience sometimes.