Love Vs Stability.

Hi everyone , welcome to my blog, so to be honest here, this love and money matter is not as simple as people make it sound, It is easy to say “choose love” when everything is soft and sweet, and it is also easy to say “choose money” when reality starts knocking hard on your door But when you are actually in that position, ehn… that is when you will understand that this life no be beans.

I have not exactly been in a situation where I had to clearly pick one and dump the other just like that, but I have been in something close, there was a time I really liked someone, like deep feelings kind of liking, he was kind, attentive, and honestly, he made me happy in ways that felt very real, But the issue was, he wasn’t financially stable at all, and not even in a “he’s trying small” kind of way… it was more like we were both just there, hoping things would get better.

At first, it didn’t matter to me, i was just enjoying the momentove felt enough, We would talk for hours, laugh about random things, and just be there for each other, vut as time went on, reality started showing itself, little things started becoming big things, going out became something we had to plan and overthink, even basic things started to feel like a struggle.

I remember one time I needed help with something very urgent, and he really wanted to help, but he couldn’t, not because he didn’t care, but because he just didn’t have the means, that moment did something to me, It made me realize that love alone cannot carry everything, and that’s where the confusion started, because how do you walk away from someone you genuinely care about, not because they hurt you, but because life is just… hard?

I won’t lie, I started thinking differently after that, I started asking myself questions like, “Can I really build a future like this?” “Will love still feel sweet when pressure enters fully?” because like that saying, love is sweet, but when money enters, love is sweeter… that thing is not a joke.

Eventually, things didn’t even end in one dramatic way, It just faded, we both started understanding, without even saying it out loud, that maybe this wasn’t going to work long term, and honestly, it was painful, not because there was no love, but because love was not enough, So if you ask me now, I don’t think it should be a case of choosing money over love or love over money,I think it should be about balance, because money without love can feel empty, and love without stability can feel stressful.

My advice to anyone in that situation is this , just be honest, with yourself, Think about your feelings and your future,Love is important and So is having a clear mind, stability and personal growth.

Don't let anyone force you to choose between love and other things, It is not always a choice, think about what you can handle, what you want to build and what kind of life you want.

So at the end of the day whatever you decide make sure it's a choice you can live with, we all just want to be okay financially.

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