Dealing with Resentment and Moving On

Hello everyone , it's a good morning from this end , So let's talk about something real, you know when you see someone and you just feel this surge of resentment? Like as in , you just hate that you even have to look at them? Yeah, that's me right now.

I got pretty hurt by this person and it is hard for me to even see them and not feel all this anger and hatred ,It is like my mind is telling me to just calm down and move on, but my emotions are all, "No way, remember what they did to you?"

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So Lately, it has been worse. I had a pretty scary experience, and it just brought all these feelings back again I am just trying not to dwell on it,not to think about it,it is hard somehow especially when I feel the physical injury hurt.

So, I have been thinking, what is the best way to deal with these feelings? Ehn…I mean, I don't want to be stuck in this resentment forever, I really want to move with my life and be happy, after all it isn't a do or die affair , shit happens and one needs to move on.

For me, the first step is to just acknowledge these feelings, I mean at least, it is okay to feel angry and hurt, it is normal. But what is not okay is letting those feelings consume and destroy me.

So next, I am trying to focus on the present moment, Like, when I see this person, I try not to think about all the hurt they caused me. Instead, I try to think about how I'm feeling in that moment, Am I feeling anxious? Angry? Sad? Whatever it is, I try to just sit with that feeling and not let it get out and escalate.

I'm also trying to practice some self-care, Like, whenever I am feeling overwhelmed, I take some time for myself, I go for a walk, or I listen to music, or I just sit in silence or I watch movie, It helps me calm down and clear my head.

And finally, I am trying to remind myself that sometimes things just aren't meant to be, Like just maybe this person and I weren't meant to be at all this I'm already convinced on this, Whatever it is, I am trying to just accept it and move on.

It is not easy, guys yeah it's not at all, It takes time and effort to deal with resentment and move on. But I'm determined to do it. I want to be happy, and I want to live a life that's free from all this negativity, moreso I want to live for myself, I want to be me and not dwelling on what's in the past.

So yeah, if you are dealing with something similar,you just know that you are definitely not alone. It is actually okay to feel angry and hurt, but do not let those feelings consume you, just take some time for yourself, practice some self care, and also remind yourself that sometimes things just aren't meant to be.

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What is Resentment?

I have been sharing how I feel , now let me tell you what this Resentment is all about, So resentment is a feeling of being angry and feeling bitterness when we have been hurt or wronged in some ways, It is like, when someone does something to us that we definitely do not like it, and we feel like they have taken advantage of us or hurt us on purpose, more like taken us for granted ,Yeah…. This feeling can be a really powerful emotion actually it is, and it can be so hard to deal with. But the thing is, resentment is like a weight that we carry around with us, It is like, we are holding onto this anger and bitterness, and it is affecting our lives in all these negative ways.

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