Three questions I feel should not be asked.
There are situations in life that one needs to be very careful of what we say or do. I am someone that loves my privacy and also respect other people's privacy. Overtime I wonder the way some people just ask some irrelevant questions that they know it's of no benefit to them. I don't know if they do that to mock the person in question or they asked because they want to turn to a monitoring spirit. I have three questions I frown at whenever I'm being asked.
First, "Are you a virgin?". I tend to get annoyed if I'm asked this question. Overtime guys who have asked me out in the past do ask this question. To me it's shouldn't be. What is the correlation between good relationship and virginity? Has virginity becomes a prerequisite for good character? I feel this should be a private issue and shouldn't be something that should be asked at all. I feel virginity status should be something that should be discussed within intending couples and not just a randomly asked question.
The second question is "when are you getting married?" I really don't know why people attach marriage to a certain age. The reason for the question in the first place is what I don't understand. This question has put many people under pressure that they end up with men that should have been just their gist partner. The worst part of it is when you are being compared to another person. I hate irrelevant questions. If you feel someone is of age and needs to get married, your responsibility is to put the person in prayers and not reminding them that they are of age or their time is going. I don't know who made some people time keeper.
The last of it is "when are you giving birth" ..for someone to be married for years and you are not seeing them with children, you should know there are reasons for the circumstance. I really don't know if people that ask such question are affected by the childlessness of the person in question. I have heard of women who killed themselves just because they were mocked by fellow women. The best way to reach out to people in such situations is to put their case in prayer. These three questions are questions I will never ask someone and I will never respond to if I'm being asked.
Thanks for reading my post, let me know your views in the comments section.
Yes these questions are quiet common especially the 2nd and 3rd one frequently questioned by aged persons. Though it is none of their business , they like to poke their nose to find pleasure.
I have spoken harshly to many people because of these questions. Some feels am rude. I really don't care. Poke nosing is wrong. What is making some people to cry in their closeth shouldn't be something they will be pock nosing about.
You are right, I frown at all these questions, if you are older than me I will ignore because I don't want to be rude. People don't like to mind their business as if their own life is perfect.
Sis, I don't ignore even the elders, I find a way to let them know it's my life, if they truly care they should be praying for me. It's just getting too much. most times I come up make them understand that I everything is in the hand of God.
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Indeed! So many people think "virgin–married–pregnant" is an essential formula for women, yet men aren't held to the same standards. Folks will ask a man IF he is married or not, but not whether he is a virgin, or when he's going to become a father. Not all people aspire to be married, or become parents, and that includes women as well as men.
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Exactly, they should let women breathe...this is a very cogent point. Thanks for your contribution.