2 Preguntas esenciales para reparar una relación 🤔 (ENG/ESP)

How to save my relationship 2 essential questions

How can we keep our relationship from being damaged?

Every day brings with it small challenges, disappointments, frustrations and irritations that can come between even the most committed couples and subtly wear down the intensity of their connection (love).

To avoid this risk, lovers should regularly make space to ask themselves, in a spirit of calm, kindness, openness and curiosity, two seemingly simple but enormously central and effective questions:

1 Why are you angry with me?, 2 How have I frightened you lately?

IT TENDS TO HAPPEN

Unwittingly, on occasions that are often very constant, we make our partner angry at us for not being more than they thought, or expected us to be. That is why it is essential that the anger that has arisen is released with a lot of maturity, to be able to express it in a more sensible way.
In answer to the first question, we could explain that we are upset because our partner's friends are very boring, because he doesn't have a better job, because they leave the kitchen messy or because they worry too much about their mother, and maybe they get angry in the same way with us, because we are very nervous, we have a bad temper, because we are very demanding with manners or because we judge others harshly.

BREATHE

But we don't need to get upset while we spread our anger (I explain). Our state of mind can be serene and even playful to make known what bothers me, we do not need solutions or magic answers, what really matters is that we have the opportunity to unburden ourselves in an atmosphere of mutual understanding and apology.

WHAT SCARES US?

Going back a few paragraphs we will give an answer to the second question. And that is that we must understand that love can be being strangled by fear (And don't tell me you haven't been scared at some time, because we get scared all the time). by being unreasonable, messy, uninterested or untrustworthy. Fear erodes the trust needed by that vulnerable little person in ourselves.

CONCLUSION

That's why when talking about these things what matters is not that we never cause an upset, but that we politely listen to our partner when they sweetly and politely tell us what we have done. if we have committed to love, we should know that a relationship also needs some routine maintenance in order to have a healthy relationship.

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