Ladies of hive contest #138: Father's day

1️⃣ A day recognizing fathers will be celebrated later this month in some parts of the world. With the changing perception of gender roles in our modern societies, how would you define the roles and responsibilities of fathers? And why do you define them that way?

Good evening beautiful #ladiesofhive, how are you doing over there?.

Father's day will be celebrated here in Nigeria on Sunday 18th of June. It's great we are beginning to appreciate fathers more,thanks to @sagarkothari88 for this topic which made me emotional, before the focus was more on mothers 😁, it is fair having a day set aside to appreciate fathers too, behind the strong men lies the silent tears, sacrifices. and burden of taking care of the children. The role of a father cannot be replaced by anyone in a child's life.

Growing up I saw my dad less, once or twice in a year, usually festive season or when he is on leave which is rare, and when he is at home I still prefer the comfort of my mum, my dad is a very strict person and I hardly talk too, always in my shell, my own nature and his strictness made it worse because I was always scared to talk sometimes. As I began to mix little by little with friends I saw some things which made me understand the reason why fathers are being harsh, because of the love they have and they don't want us to go astray, mothers put us through as well but the fear fathers create in us, we still go against mother's instructions and stylishly escape punishment with excuses but we dare not with dad, my mum sometimes will threaten to report any of our bad behaviours to him and we quickly shrink and adjust. We saw it as a wicked attitude though.

Now that we are grown he still sees this fear in us, this made him a little bit calm or maybe it's due to old age, he was never present in any of my siblings' graduation due to work but he made it to mine, since it came after his retirement, he is not really the photo freak, he still tried to pose for few pictures.His retirement was an opportunity to stay close to us, for 2 decades I spoke to him more on phone and he always make sure we never lack anything,he is a very emotional person and caring too but takes only those closer to him to notice. Fathers stay strong for their families and do not always want to show their weaknesses. They shoulder the responsibility and do not want to see their children suffer. They make sure everything is being taken care of from the shelter, clothing to feeding, they deserve accolades too.

Am using this post to recognise my father and all fathers, God bless you all.

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