More Money, Less Love

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Have you ever imagined yourself on the shores of some of the most exotic locations in the world, resting by the bank of a beach, sipping traditional beverages and just letting the different arms of nature to deal with your body as gently as it could.

But it's not just about the vacations, the Latinas and the sunbathing. It is more about being able to afford and sustain the kind of life you wish for yourself.

All these are impossible without money. It is considered by many to be the second most important thing in life after God. It oils a man's purpose and helps him achieve his desires and goals much more easily.

Love on its own part is just as important. It's importance is even more enhanced in our time where its scarcity is pronounced with too many manipulations.

Love is sweet, patient, enduring, comforting and quite simply necessary.

I personally admire true love and long for it many at times but nothing makes me more miserable than my inability to cate for my needs and that of my family and loved ones.

That's primarily why I'd gladly take $200,000 ahead of true love. For better context, $200,000 when converted to my local currency is around 148m naira which is quite a good sum that would set me up for life.

Truth is that the reason many of us are still relatively broke is the lack of capital to properly kickstart a lot of the ideas that we have. I'm a victim and have seen a lot of other dreams of very promising young men go to drain just because they had no capital to finance their plans. And in all of those cases, "love" deserted them for more financially stable individuals.

$200,000 is quite a sun that would enable me to not just invest in myself but also in my family and friends. And that's why I used my cover photo which shows my mom and sister who are the most important people in my life right now.

My primary purpose at this time is to give them a life that I know they deserve and love can't do that.

Then there's the fact that as a fresh graduate, societal pressure has started mounting for me to stabilize myself financially and otherwise, and again love can't help me there.

And living in Nigeria we've come to the realization that love can be bought with money. Maybe not true love, but then the lady can be thought to love when the conditions are right. After all, to an average African man love is respect and loyalty, two qualities that can be bought.

Then there's the fact that it takes a lot of resources to properly service love ranging from time, energy and also money. The creation of memorable times and events requires money and the lack of it opens up loopholes for the relationship to go stale. So there money helps love.

There's a popular saying that "it's better to cry in a Benz than on a bicycle" and I totally agree with that.

I know that when it gets to the point of marriage, love is seen as a very important ingredient, and I agree. But then it's role in a working marriage is overrated. To me the 80 20 rule applies. In this aspect it takes 20% love and 80% understanding to make a marriage work and most girls nowadays are much more understanding when there's enough money available.

It's a no-brainer for me, keep $200,000 and true love and I'll gladly jump on the benjamins. I can manage the love I'm currently enjoying from home and from my very small circle of friends. That's all the love I need right now and a lot of money.

I know that finding true and enduring love has a lot of its own perks and I'm not condemning it. It's always a thing of joy and comfort to have someone with you whom you can share the journey and its challenges with.

Someone who can light up the hope in you whenever you feel lost and empty and reignite your passion for the journey ahead.

But at this point in my life with all the problems and obstacles staring me down, I'd take a $200,000 check instead of true love.

This post is in response to the Weekend Engagement Prompts by @galenkp