Having a Joint account with your partner is giving them a dagger and trusting them not to stab you
As a married man, no matter how much you love your wife, there are some things you need to keep a secret from her.
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Do not let her know your worth financially
Keep your family matters away from her
Never let them know your weakness
The number 1 on my list is important, it is okay for your wife to know that you have money but never let her know exactly how much you are worth, you can never know your partner completely no matter how long you have been together...
When the love is hot, you will be tempted to discuss everything with her but that is the mistake most men make because people change, people who divorce used to be lovers, but time changes their feelings so anything could happen.
Take good care of your wife and get her things she needs but do not let her know what you are worth because she might not appreciate the little you do again and would want more especially if you are worth a lot and in the case of feelings fading, such a mistake can cause you a lot, there are proofs on the internet as men are losing their properties and money to someone who didn't work for it with them after divorce, so be wise.
When it comes to keeping your family matters away from her, I mean your father, mother, and siblings, if you are the breadwinner of your family and the one sponsoring the rest, it is bad to tell your wife the things you did for your family, that may cause disrespect or even make her feel you are spending too much for your family and hence the reason why she is getting less, so if you give your family anything or discuss things with your family, it is not her business and you don't need to gist her about it.
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Lastly, never let your partner know your weakness, there are good and bad moments in every relationship, so don't tell them something that they can use to hurt you when they are angry, anger is a destructive spirit and even if they later regret their actions, the deed has been done and a broken egg can never be whole again.
Back to the Hive Naija prompt of a Joint account with my partner, it is a bad idea if that is the only account I am using and have no other accounts, I mean I can never put my life savings in a joint account with my partner, the first reason is that there would be no peace of mind based on certain things that can happen.
What if she gets scammed? I have seen cases where people get scammed of their money by scammers, what if she falls into the wrong hands and they withdraw all the money in the account? or what if she falls in love with another person and runs away with my money, do not tell me that I don't trust my wife because there are many cases like that!
Lastly, She knows what is in the account, she can withdraw at will which is not good for the family, So the only reason I would do a joint account is if I will only put my spare money there and not my entire life savings!
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You've said it all, the first point got to me, never let your spouse know your worth financially, I trust my gender once they know what a man is worth, whatever that man does, we will never be satisfied.
Exactly!
Trust is always a good thing, but I would advice that being cautious is wise too. Keeping some financial independence can safeguard both parties just in case the worst happens. I personally think it's about balance and transparency in love, but also protecting yourself just in case. I love this blog brother
yea it is ok to save together just not one's entire savings.
Absolutely brother, absolutely
You’re right
A man should never tell his woman how much money he’s making or how much he’s worth.
That should be kept aside
Thanks for these advices though. Also, what do you think a woman is normally supposed to hide from her man?
Do not tell him about those who slept with you, if they mistakenly raped you and he didn't know, never tell him about it, some secrets are meant to follow us to the grave, and that is one thing a man will never tolerate, the thought of another man on his wife mistakenly, intentionally or any other ways you can think of
At first I was like, burl is deviating from the prompt topic...kilode... you turned into a marriage counselor this morning 😄
Well, regarding your teachings, people are different, people can change and whatever we feel will make us more secure, it's good to do it... personally, I have received thank you call from my husband people and most times, its embarrassing...I always try to code as if i am aware that hubby sent them money but deep down, it hurts....yes, its not my business but in a case you have a wife who understands you better and have a good relationship with your siblings..then being transparent isn't a big deal
Infact, a joint account can include the money from where you can send to both families when the need arises
And for sure, having your personal account is inevitable
Joint account should be more of family expenses and projects in agreement though
😂 marriage counselor ke 🏃
then being transparent isn't a big dealbeing transparent to her about my family matters? that is not necessary at all and like you said, it is not the wife's business what the husband did for his family and you did well by acting like you know when they call to thank you..
Joint account should be more of family expenses and projects in agreement though.family expenses only, we must not mix family expenses and project money together so we wont go bankrupt lol
In case of joint account also think there is no necessity of joint account. If I trust her then I will creative separate account and give funding for it. But my account must be separated from my wife's account because I don't want her to know about each transaction because she will obviously ask the reason of the transaction.
yup!