Real Talk Weekend Prompt Step Into the Hot Seat #3

Do you think that marriage is a huge commitment and could limit you from some certain things? Or something that will bring more opportunities and success?

What an interesting question, i so much love questions that put me on a hot seat, especially when i know i can support my claims in diverse ways with both logical and practical examples…

Answering the question from @jmis101;

Marriage is not just the coming together of a man and woman to become husband and wife, it involves more than that, and that includes the coming together of two different beings, with different life experiences, perspectives and possibly from different cultures after they have understood, communicated, shared and choose each other to walk alongside each other for the rest of their lives…

Marriage is a definitely a journey of huge commitment, and it would limit both gender from certain things in life, and mind you, marriage will never hinder you from the good and profitable opportunities in life because marriage itself is holy. Marriage will only limit you from continuing to live the life you have once lived when there was never a partner in the picture. Take for example; before marriage i was a constant club goer, i don’t miss clubs on weekends, the moment i tie the knot, the knot has become a boundary i should never cross, therefore i have to stop going to the club, such lifestyle becomes my past and i lead a new life, same for the other party. But if both of us are the party type, there is no harm in hitting the club with my wife every weekend, I just need to know i will only be with my wife and no one else, that’s another scenario… My point is that marriage changes a lot of things because a thought for one now becomes a thought for two, you don’t live for yourself anymore, so your actions should not affect your partner.

Marriage won’t limit you from good choices and opportunities, it will only limit you from bad choices and lifestyles, the moment you are married everything automatically changes.

Answering your second question, marriage will never limit great opportunities and success, and that’s because it’s a holy union. For you to agree to be married to someone, you need to know what you will be walking into and that certain things will change, it’s a choice you have to make, and once you make it there’s no going back at all. Marriage is a good thing and almost everyone in this world wants to be married someday, so I think marriage shouldn’t be a barrier to success and great opportunities in life…

Hmmmm, @chefqueen has really carried me far 😂… on her question 🙋…

I wish i can use voice note for real…

@chefqueen

I think love can be both a feeling and decision.
But love can only stimulate first through a strong feeling, then a decision to continue loving is made which encourages it to last.

The feeling to love someone can first be felt but when you consider your options, you might decide whether to continue loving or put a stop to it.
That's what I think though.

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@chefqueen
Is love a feeling or a decision. This is a tough one mama. But if I were to look on the long run, love is not just a feeling but a decision, especially when it comes to commitment and relationships. We can't cruise the relationship on feelings alone because the feelings change like weather. But when we take it as a decision, then love is bound to go a long way. And that's where commitment kicks in. In knowing that I have decided to love this person, and I know the feelings around that love can change, because love is not smooth, and choosing to keep that love running despite the high and lows. That said, I think love is more of a decision than a feeling.

@jmis101

Well if I want to give my honest opinion on the question;
"Do you think that marriage is a huge commitment and can limit you from some certain things, or something that brings more opportunities and success?"

To be honest I'd say the both part of the question applies depending on the kind of partner you end up with.. marriage is of course a huge commitment, to even put it bluntly it's a massive commitment and yes it could limit you from some certain things 'cos the life you lived in your singlehood won't be the same anymore, there are limits to who you relate, where you go and even what you do and things you did without having to ask for permission, you'd now need to get a consent from your partner for it.. if you both understand each other.. it can be a sweet journey but if otherwise it may become boring and frustrating ..

And for the second part where it says does it bring more opportunities and success.. I'd also say yes even though sometimes it may not be so, but the truth is marriage is designed to bring more opportunities and success because two forces are coming together, two connections, two characters coming together to become one ..
I'm a witness too, my thrift savings business boosted because of the influence of my husband.. no dime of his was contributed o but his name was enough to get me more customers in his community especially the fact that people that know him and are excited that we are together started patronising me... So yes marriage even though it's a huge commitment brings more opportunities and success in the right settings.. although it may be otherwise

@chefqueen

Love is it actually a feeling or a decision ...

Love is a feeling first, then a decision although it can be a decision first depending on the settings..

This is my reason... If we define love _ we define it as a deep feeling.. so love is supposed to be felt first, the connection and attraction is supposed to be the force for Making the decision to stay in love or not.

But then there's a point in someone's life where even though you don't want to love, you decide to love and from the decision to love the feelings grow.
Take for instance, you're made to commit to someone or a child you're made to take care of even if it's against your will, your reflections and maybe the things you see will make you take a decision to love and then you nurture the feelings but then from the time you decided to make a decision, there's a feeling to it.. something you don't realise made you decide..(think about it)

Do you think that marriage is a huge commitment and could limit you from some certain things? Or something that will bring more opportunities and success?

@jmis101 marriage is the coming together of two people from different backgrounds and with different upbringing. My mom will alway say marriage is not a child's play that why who you settle with as a woman and as a man is very important, before you decide to walk down that aisle with anyone. Please have some decent conversation,find out his/her mentality. Some questions ask it when his friends are around, so you know what your are getting into. Marriage can make or mar someone especially female. Marriage will limit you from a lot of things some can be good and some bad but it always have to depend on the understanding of the both gender.

To some people it's brings them opportunity and success but to others, is a decision the regret most in life. Remember for it to be a success emphasis on who you marry. It's someone that like his woman been more successful or someone that doesn't like successful women, forget what someone say but watch out for the character or speech change whenever you climb a milestone. As a woman you will learn how to compromise but don't lose yourself in the process. Marriage bring opportunities when you marry the right person for you. That's why as a woman have something meaningful to do for yourself before marriage. It can be overwhelming at some point. Lastly it’s what the two people put into it that makes it a blessing or a burden.

Love is it actually a feeling or decisions

@chefqueen love is both but it starts with a feeling before it graduate to a decision. Although many has mistake infatuation to be love. Love is deeper than people can even think.Love is actually both a feeling and a decision.

As a feeling,it often starts with attraction, excitement, warmth, or deep affection. These emotions make your heart race, give you butterflies, or make you miss someone when they’re not around. But as a decision, feelings can fade or change, but love stays strong when you choose to be committed, patient, and caring even on hard days. That’s why lasting love isn’t just about passion,it’s also about the daily choice to nurture the relationship.

Let's take for example you have a husband or a boyfriend who is very wealth but at some point, he loses all he has and life becomes hard in a way that you have never imagined, but you wake up every morning to still do things that you do before without murmuring like prepare food, wash cloth, contribute to little things, encourage him and even find a way to give him some cash to hold, while you hope for the best.

The butterflies might not be there again but that decision to still remain is what makes love a decision even when other options are right there in your front.

So, you could say love begins as a feeling but lasts as a decision.

Nice
I’ll work on this