Real Talk Weekend Prompt Step Into the Hot Seat #2
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Remember in our introduction post when we said we’d be doing something special for weekends? Well… here it is!
Every week, we’ll gather all the best questions asked in our Discord community and post them here on Hive for our Weekend Prompt also known as the #HotSeat. These questions are straight from the minds of our members real people, real thoughts, real talk.
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Originally inspired by:
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While our motive for the Real Talk Weekend Prompt is a little different, these amazing initiatives inspired us in their own way. Here, we aim to take questions gathered from our Discord during the week and open them up for deeper, thought provoking discussion on Hive.
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- Pick one question from the list below.
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Before we dive in into these week hotseat questions let's congratulate the last week winner
Congratulations to @jmis101 your question has been the most tagged and given answer regarding it.
This Week’s #HotSeat Questions
@jmis101
Why is it that most ladies, once they get married they gradually distance themselves from their single friends and eventually leave them and make friends with married ladies instead?
This was argued with my friend back then in school, which she sworn never to do something like that because to her it isn't cool as well.
Now she is married, the story is exactly as what we argued.
The only old friend she was able to keep was because she got married as well.
Is this a tradition or something they are initiated into or an involuntary act?
What age do you think is appropriate for dating, from your experience would you say you started dating too late or pretty early.
What's your advice to the younger generation about dating.
What's it about dating stereotypes. I have witnessed a lot of hostility on social platforms thrown towards a single mother. Yes, they did give birth out of wedlock, does it mean they're unworthy of love? Are they unfit to be in the dating pool? Why are they judged harshly? Are they really to blame?
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STOPThis is indeed a hot seat. @ozibaby @beccatessy2 @beautyme @chi4god What do you think about these questions?
Please what makes it a hot seat?
Because of the topic
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@kachy2022
I think from 18 years old one can start dating and I believe parents should up their game with guiding and telling their children the truth.
I don't know what to say about my dating life, because it's complicated.
Okay, I also agree that 18 years is cool because they are young adults at 18, and precook have more sense.
Okay, I better not ask why your dating life was complicated 😵😔
😂😂😂😂
Don't ask oo
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@wamiru
I see single mothers as heros and one that are able to stand by their decisions.
It's sad that men view them like that.
Maybe they are scared because they won't tolerate any nonsense.
Or maybe they feel they are still fully attached to their baby daddy issues.
Yeah they are heroes. Maybe they are really afraid and the best way they can cope with is trash and make them feel little.
Then they should engage before making assumptions.
Thanks for the insight❤️.
Assumptions are always what they are good at.
You are welcome dear
@jmis101 you see ,I have also studied this as most of my friends are married now. As soon as they get married,they became distance. I didn't get the reasons from them but there is something I noticed might be the reason,I'm not saying it's the reason ,I just think it's might be after so much thinking and observation.
When they aren't married,we all talk about how we are going to use our married life, you know live in fantasy, grow our business and brand ,become more of what we are now. I now realized that the results wasn't like that when they got married, someone that said she will open her shop eventually had to go work for someone,things weren't as they plan .
So, I came to conclusion that they didn't want to roll with us single again so that we don't shame them behind their backs that feel they aren't living the life they planned.
What do you think? Do you see this observation too ?
@oluwatobiloba pls can you share more light on this question?
I notice they see single people as people that won't understand them, maybe because there is a different life in marriage.
I don't agree with this observation at all
@kachy2022 . I think 18 years is perfect to be in a relationship but not deep relationship. A relationship that is controlled by parents, no secret meetup ,no outing without the parent consent,the type of dating that doesn't accept kiss talk less of other sexual activities. Well discipline dating.
I started dating late and I think its not the best ,so I would advise the younger ones to date earlier than I do. My parents ways of discipline didn't work, I won't use that technique on my children. As long as you are 18, if you have someone that said he like you as a lady and you also like him. Invite him to the house ,let me counsel you and you can date .
Well, age 18 is agreed as an ideal age for dating, but every parent knows their child when it comes to making good choices. So if my child is 18 years old and I feel like she's isn't emotionally ready for that, I won't let them date.
I prefer dating for marriage and not dating just for fun or because others who are her age are dating.
@jmis101 friends don't consciously drift when one of them gets married. Using my case as an example, I felt lonely and abandoned by friends after I got married.
Most singles feel that when a person gets married, things automatically become better for them. They would always say, "Your own better na, you don marry"
Those words can be really annoying. Married life can be demanding, but those who value their friendship would still find a way to make it work.
Really.
That's sad.
We the single friends thought we are the only ones suffering from being dumped oo
Kai
Thank you very much ma'am for this.
I will have to reach out to my married friends.
Naaaah, don't feel that way. I was even the one doing the calling most times to my single friends until I realized that it takes two to make it work. I stopped trying and let them think whatever they wanted.
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@wamiru, the thing is that the society tags single mothers as loose and uncultured, which shouldn't be the case. I believe that they also deserve to be loved and appreciated because it takes a strong woman and a lovely heart to single handedly take care of a child.
I wish they viewed it like you do. And actually listen to that single mom before passing judgment. Maybe through your message, they will and pass some love to them women raising babies single handedly.
Thanks for the insight❤️.
I hope so, too! You are welcome ❤️
@jmis101
I think the thing is, these friends think of marriage as another achievement and you know like a success, and they can now only hang out with only those in the same league. It's a social norm thing, but if you ask an old person, they advice against losing your sisterhood of before marriage, something we often overlook. Sometimes, it's also an influence from the husbands, who view single ladies as unruly and doesn't want their wives taken back to the single end.
Wow
Thank you very much dear for the reply.
I think this achievement and looking down on their single friends is real.
And they have that feeling that hanging out with married people will help them maintain their marriage.
@kachy2022
The best age, should be determined by emotional intelligence. Like when one can comprehend what they're getting into and how they'll have to cruise a relationship. That said, one should start dating when they really have the dynamics of love relationships. Maybe this way, there'd be less heartaches and more successful relationships and most of all love would be a place to be.
Love is never late. There's no early or lateness in love. Like success, it's timeless.
Now advice to the young generation? Please don't do because the society is doing. Peer pressure will always be there. There's no shame in waiting on love. If it's meant to be it'll be. Just use your own pace.
Use your own pace! I like the word. A lot of people do things out of peer pressure, and that's why they end up heartbroken.