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RE: The duties of a man
Nice content you put out here and you started by saying in our father’s time. I agreed with you on your thoughts but times have changed and are still changing.
I do not see a big deal with men helping out in the kitchen, it doesn’t have to be just when the wife is sick or pregnant. Anyone can actually cook. Before these men got married, how were they eating? You don’t want to tell me they ate out all there lives and never cooked a meal for themselves for one day. How about men who are chefs? There’s no stereotypes to these things. One can assist as a sign of love just the same way a woman can support the husband to take care of the family. I think it’s all about the understanding between the husband and wife. They know themselves and what would work for them and should go with what they deem fit for their marriage.
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my question is, if you were a man, you worked all day to provide for your wife and your kids... how would you feel getting home tired and still expected to cook for the family? note your wife is a full housewife
the purpose of marriage is for the two partners to support each other , so why should a man still be the one to cook when he is the one providing for the family and if a man start cooking, what will be the wife's duty?
Beautiful question and this points to just a situation between a house wife and the working husband. No responsible house wife would stay home all day and let her husband work all day and come back and cook. In this case there’s an understanding here and shared roles.
Have you considered a situation where both husbands and wife are working class people. Both come back late tired or even a situation where the husbands comes in earlier than the wife. Would he wait and do nothing until his wife’s comes back to fix food for both of them? Can’t he fix something for themselves or they can both look for an alternative because both are tired from the days work. What if there’s food in the freezer, can’t he warm the food and eat or would he wait until the wife comes back to fix food for them to eat because she’s a woman and she belongs to the kitchen no matter what.
I had a friend of mine who was working full time and her husband had a flexible job but stays home most times. He had this mentality that women belonged to the kitchen. He stays home all day and the wife comes back from work, goes to the market, and when she comes home. She starts cooking and the man never came to even assist all in the name of kitchen is for the woman. If you were in her shoes how would you feel? Well that singular act of insensitivity put a whole lot of strain on the marriage as so it would if it was vice-versa.
That’s why I said love and understanding can twerk these things and we don’t live by stereotypes.
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As a man cooking is not a sign of love to the woman it is a responsibility
I believe in love yet I say love is sacrifice
So I call it sacrificial responsibility which both men and women need to understand
I love cooking so I don’t think it will be stress supporting my woman in the kitchen
It is a shared responsibility
for a man who is already burdened with going out to work and providing for the family, he won't have the time and energy to cook, and women get easily entitled... I have a friend who is a chef, his gf would tell him that they have to enter the kitchen together if he wants her to cook...