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RE: What's Love Got to Do With It?
@consciouscat Awww. That is sweet. It is good to find someone decent to love. I really did not believe it would happen for me. Everyone I knew told me, "one day, you will meet a great guy," and I was certain that was their unbridled optimism flaring up.
It was a nice thing for them to say, and I appreciated it without believing. Then, one day... surprise! I don't want to jinx it, but it's almost 9 years later now!
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Indeed 😍 It's funny, Harlow. When I realised how strong my pattern of being in dysfunctional/abusive kinds of romantic relationships was I went on an enforced period of celibacy to see how much I could unravel the pattern. I focused on falling in love with myself. And when I attracted someone knew, I paid attention to the dynamic of the relationship. If I realised it didn't feel good, I said 'no' to that situation as soon as I could spot it. Eventually, I had said 'no' enough to people who didn't value me enough to really love and I'd filled myself up with so much of my own love, that the story had flipped:
I was no longer looking for someone to love me; I realised I was so full of love, I wanted someone to love, with all this gorgeous love inside of me.
Pretty soon I met my now mister. (I did have to say a couple more 'no's' on route to being here, but it really didn't take too long once that script had flipped).
And...
Yay 🙏😍🤩