RE: Moana Needs To Come.

Oh

So I had a thing this week.

Some folks in the village have taken umbrage to me.

And a couple (or more) other humans in the village. There's a "group' that pretty much runs the show around here (as usual)

So they took it upon themselves to smash the car I finally got. And, of course, nobody in the village will talk or help because everyone is terrified of them. I'll share more later when I'm not living here because I'm more "woke" these days, as to how this works (doesn't work) and how to deal with this type of thing in my country. It is what it is and one must work smart.

But this incident (for me after doing this stuff for some years) goes like this:

1. incident
2. "flashback" - for me this was both my early childhood because my family excluded me and picked on me (long story and am going to write that book to explain this to people soon - but it's basically family dysfunction because of mulit-generational trauma and the subsequent family "roles" that are unconsciously assigned to people in the situation)
3. Flashback = Hard to sleep (😘 ), my eating changed (lost my appetite) etc = this is C-PTSD (the fight/flight stress reaction - the "flight" one specifically = "anxiety" some folks still call it) because this situation mimicked my early childhood situation and my brain sends out a warning signal to be on the alert. Of course. i.e being targeted and "hurt"/"attacked" and nobody will acknowledge it or help
4. My fix = well.. I've done a lot of recovery so I could see what is going on and when you see what it is that is causing the flashback, the flashback abates (but I've done trauma recovery over five years for my developmental trauma as well. You may find it a bit more elusive to pin point if you haven't dug around yet)

So it's worth trying to pin point when this reaction began, see. This will give you a clue as to what you may need to go back and deal with. And this may also take time. i.e what interaction, conversation, movie, post, whatever...

For now managing it is fine.

Walking in nature (barefoot!); making sure you eat and drink water (! force yourself to if you don't feel like it); I take half an over the counter sleeping pill and go to bed super early during times like this; I make sure I filter my content online (only happy, uplifting stuff); mindfullness practices like yoga and physical exercise; dancing and music (for me = I just had a great boogie for half an hour in my lounge on my own! 😀)

i.e "grounding" activities (see DBT for good ones) Not sure why they don't teach this in schools 🧐

https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/

Do this until is passes but for the future this is where I really started to make connections.

1. begin checking in with your nervous system (instead of your thinking!) as often as you can during the day i.e how your body is feeling

Just start there.

And do it as often as you can.

I am aware of this 100% the whole day I'm awake now. I've been practicing this for years though.

I know immediately when to take some kind of action these days to "ground" myself before it escalates. And it also alerts me to things that aren't necessarily good for me to be around.

Dr Steven Porges - The PolyVagal Theory (The Therapist Uncensored website - they are sharing amazing info, tools and skills to manage and even heal this 👍)

I'd suggest you start there :)

Only suggestions. You've got this!

But, in my experience, unless you find the cause this will probably keep happening to you.

And, in my experience again, it can be permanently fixed.