It's not necessary to follow footsteps

We are living in a cruel world, and life is not fair for everyone. We always say that justice should be established, but most of the time, justice is for powerful people. If you have money and power, justice is for you, or it can be said that justice will be on your side. It should not be like that, but this is how it is. At least it’s the truth for the people of underdeveloped or developing countries. I know that many of us deny accepting it, but it’s the truth, and the truth won’t change; it doesn’t matter if someone accepts it or not.

ImgSrc

There is nothing to be surprised about if someone gets hurt or something bad happens. It’s like they needed to endure pain and cruelty, which was not good. Such a thing gives them trauma for sure, and several times it has been seen that the same person also does the same thing with others in the future. Do you think we should hold them accountable for their action, which was the result of past incidents or trauma? So, you think that they deserve forgiveness for it? I am going to share a very common example of it for better understanding before I share my thoughts related to it.

Let’s assume a fictional character named “Alauddin.” Alauddin is the only son of his parents, and his father doesn’t belong to a good character who gets angry easily. His father always quarrels with his mother, and many times it was natural for Alauddin to be beaten by his father. Expecting fatherly love was hard to imagine. He has grown up in those ways, and feeling bad for it is not surprising for him. Sometimes he wished that he had a life without his father, as his father made his life miserable.

I agree that in this scenario, there is no mistake of Alauddin, and he was just a victim, and whatever he suffered was not good, and it should not have happened to him. The experience will give him trauma for sure. If Alauddin does the same behavior as his son, will it be ok? Shouldn’t we hold him accountable for his action? You may think it will be the result of the childhood trauma, but I think it’s the result of his choice.

I believe that if he didn’t like the way his father treated him, he wouldn’t want to be the person his father was. As he suffered in the past, he must know the pain better than anyone. He should restrict him from being turned into a monster like his father, as he hates it most. I don’t find any reason why he would choose to be like his father if he didn’t like his father’s actions. If he becomes a person like his father, and his next generation follows the same footsteps, it will be a never-ending process. In that case I don’t think it’s any kind of trauma. It will be turned into one kind of legacy. But I think every human being is different, and they can choose to be different. Alauddin suffered, and so he can do his best not to repeat the same thing with his son.

It’s not necessary to follow in the footsteps of Father. If my father did something wrong with me, it doesn’t necessarily mean I needed to follow my father. In fact, in my case, I think I would try to be the best father if we were on the same page. My thoughts are very clear. Everyone should be accountable for their actions. Blaming the past or trauma is just an excuse unless one has any mental issue. If someone has mental issues, he should go to an asylum for treatment. I think I have already shared my opinion.