Friendship is strong but it's can't be done forcefully

Life is interesting when we have some friends with whom we can share our thoughts, experiences, secrets, and burdens. Friends are not those people who only support us in our good times and back off when the situation gets worse. It's not necessary for them to carry our burdens all the time, but their suggestions, trust, and encouragement can be the support for us, which is not so difficult. At the same time, I think they don't need to stay with us all the time because everyone has their own life and their own difficulties to handle.

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In most cases, friendship occurs with those who have similar thoughts and mentality, at least in the beginning (by the way, I'm not saying it's impossible to make friends with those people who have different thoughts, mentality, or beliefs). Later, we start to get to know each other and find out that the difference between us means the difference between thoughts and beliefs. Many times, it's also possible to find a friend who has many differences with us. Does it mean we should maintain distance from them and stop contact with them? They are not like social media friends whom we can simply unfriend with just a few clicks.

Friends belong to the category of people who can influence us more compared to others. So, it’s a concern what kind of friend we have. There are some friends who are extravagant, and as a friend, I think it should not bother me, as he is not going to spend my money. As long as I can manage my cost, it’s ok for me. But if my friends insist I am like him, it’s indeed a problem, and it’s one kind of forcing me, and it is such a thing I hate most. If I say no, that means no, and if anyone tries to change me, I may end up hurting the person badly because I am not the one who changes for others, especially when it’s not a good habit. Will I maintain distance between me and him? It depends on how tired he is of forcing me. So, it’s hard to answer. But if it’s about a good habit, I think there is nothing to hold a grudge about, but I think he can suggest it to me only if it’s a good habit. I don’t like someone to force me, even if it’s for a good habit. I may end up drawing a line or ending the friendship for it, as I don’t know when to stop.

Having different thoughts and beliefs is very natural, and I never expect my friends to be like me. I can be very flexible in this case. I can accept the variation of thoughts and beliefs of my friends because I think it’s the thing that makes friendship more interesting. Because of the differences, we try to understand each other and try to be respectful to each other. It’s a thing that helps us to know more about them and their specialty. It’s not necessary to believe what my friend believes, and it’s not necessary for my friends to believe what I believe. But we should be respectful of each other as well as our thoughts and beliefs. There should not be any force to believe in anything just because of friends. There should be understanding, and understanding is important. As long as my friend doesn’t insist that I believe what he believes, I think it won’t make any impact on our friendship.