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RE: My Journey of Forgiveness and Forgetting
Forgiveness is a selfish act. You do it because you want to feel better and you don't want to be weighed down by the pains of the hurt and betrayal. And the pain that people have caused you will determine how you relate with them after the fact, even with forgiveness. The way you treat a thief after the fact is different from the way you'd treat a murderer after the fact.
You might be willing to let the thief back into your home, even though you'd have your eyes on him like a hawk all through. But you'd never let a murderer into your house again, and even if you do, you'd never be comfortable with them to the point that they'd catch you off guard.
Forgiveness is a way of letting go of the pain the caused you. Forgetting sounds like erasing the very act itself, which is impossible. So, how people choose to go about it all, after the fact, is up to them.
You can forgive someone and still choose not to see them ever again. Simply because setting eyes on them will bring it all back.
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Hahaha 😂 yes, I can see Bruno has a lot to say 😆 I understand you here but this is why I said forgiveness totally isn’t an easy thing with people but it is when one is in Christ.
No, I don’t agree with this. Should we now say Jesus was selfish as a human when He was hurt, betrayed, crucified? No. Forgiveness is a commandment and as someone who truly want to be for Christ, then it’s a must and not that it’s selfish. It’s part of who we are in Christ and besides, it’s beneficial.
I guess you have a point. When I say it's a selfish act, I mean it's because you're doing it for yourself. It's beneficial to you, your soul, your mental health. And most of the time, it's not really about how the forgiveness will affect the person who offended you.
Sometimes, being selfish is not so bad. Maybe, it could be the best decision you ever make.