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RE: THE INDISPENSABLE ROLE OF LOVE
I get you, Hope, on the point that things should be sorted and thought out before marriage. There are many things that SHOULD BE, but life, in practicality, is pretty complex. In order to move on We need to figure out what we are supposed to do when what SHOULD NOT happen, happens.
At times, despite having all the good intentions, despite being genuine and truthful, despite asking and answering all the important questions to us relationships go towards a failure. Life happens. You never know
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True, very true. We can never figure everything out all at once. There are even sometimes I do things that I even feel surprised that I could do something like that. People change and that is because of what they think about. If we can fix our thoughts (which we most times don’t find easy to do), we will fix so many other problems too.
No matter how well we have planned things, it can always go south and that is why personally for me, I just put everything into God’s hands and be rest assured that challenges will come but at least I have someone who is going to be with me through those challenges and it will be even more better if my partner does the same (this is where having the same interests, beliefs and faith comes in).
I’m not denying the fact that all I’m saying is hard and that what we are going through is not real. It is very real, but that doesn’t mean we should just sit back and settle for anything that comes or for the new normal. It’s just like traveling to a place but in a wrong direction. The moment you realize that you are on the wrong path, normally you should turn back but then, some people can still choose to continue on that wrong path because they feel they have strayed for too long.
Talking things out before getting married doesn’t mean everything will be perfect, it is just you preparing yourself for what is to come because it will definitely come. But once you are married, never forget it is for better and for worst, it shouldn’t be one sided (which is what we see these days, just the good). When it gets hard, it doesn’t mean you should quit, it means something even more beautiful is about to happen but that is if you can pass through that phase successfully.
There’s always a way of escape, if you don’t know that way (which we don’t), ask God, he knows it. 😊
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