Enough Is Enough: Patiently Letting Go.
Most of the time, relating to humans has always been one of the most challenging things to experience. Sometimes you find it easy to understand and move along with them, and there are times when everything just happens so oddly between us.
As humans, we are created to offend each other; it seems that's just a part of us. But being considerate of each other and trying as much as we can to put ourselves in others ' shoes is what makes a perfect relationship.
Despite that, we still have to put more focus on some people. Their actions and reactions, at times, tend to be suspicious and need to be addressed immediately.
I can't remember the last time I ghosted someone, and this was because recently I have been trying so much to be cautious when relating to people. I would make sure I get to know and understand the person before getting any closer. If they’re someone I can relate to, then I am totally open to them. But if they are not, then there is nothing I can do but give them the space they deserve.
I met with someone recently, and I never knew him before, but gradually we got to link up in one way or another. At first, I was not in a hurry to get closer, but in the long run, I realized he was someone I could relate well with over time.
The same thing also goes for someone who happened to be introduced to me as a lawyer. I know I might not be a professional in my field, but at least I am not as low as such. I needed a document from her with a deadline, which she was also well aware of.
When it was time for her to deliver the documents, she started acting so weird. Every time I called her, she would ignore my calls and messages. I felt disappointed, I had to be at the court in person. When she saw me, she was shocked. I never reacted like I was angry and frustrated with her.
I welcomed her smile in multiple folds, and she apologized about the delay, but not her behavior. Then she asked me to be patient with her as she promised that I would get the documents the following week. I exercised a lot of patience till the next week and endured all sorts of words thrown at me.
The agreed date was here, and you would have thought things would change, but it rather got worse. She was nowhere to be found in court and still ignored calls. At this point, I was so frustrated. I kept calling and calling for another week. Then she finally responded, asking to get the documents from the court register.
I knew that was the end between both of us. After I was handed the document, I confirmed it. I ghosted everything about her immediately. I just can't deal with people like her.
So there are some instances where you just fall victim to the wrong people, but it's best if one could patiently deal with the situation, then let go of them afterwards; there is no problem in that. There are many other similar incidents that warrant that I ghost them and move on. In the end, nobody really cares.
This is my response to the HIVE LEARNERS weekly prompt in the hive-learners community for the Week 184 Edition 1, and the topic to be discussed is GHOSTING.
Sometimes patience is needed, but when they keep crossing the line, the best thing is to just let go and move on in peace. I love how you ghosted her, I can understand how you feel.
Hahaha 😂 this thing used to happen to me, too. You will keep tolerating their behavior until you’ve got what you needed from them and after then, no one should tell you what to do next. That’s not a good attitude.