Better to Have Drama than to Have... Nothing
People are emotional beings, and when they care about something but have opposite points of view, sometimes drama happens. Sure, it would be much better to have a logical debate and people admit when they are wrong, but at the same time, emotions play a role, conversations get heated, and people may start to see in them only what triggers them and respond to that.
That's not necessarily a bad thing, in my opinion, because eventually both sides cool down (if they weren't already) and they will start to see the other side's point of view and possibly reflect on whether there is any merit to it or not. Emotion is good, because it shows that you care about something, in your own way, which may be different than how someone else cares about the same thing or the solutions others see as better.
Some serenity and meditation after drama sounds good, huh? 😄 Let's ask the AI how did she end up on that rock in the middle of the lake without getting wet, lol...
So, I believe even haters are better than... indifference. To hate means to have a reaction to something, even if that's a negative reaction. To be indifferent means to ignore it, to not know or care about its existence.
Hive has been treated for a long time with indifference especially in places where we could gather some awareness. We understand how that feels, what it means to be in an eco chamber. Maybe not as much indifference anymore, if I am able to read the "signs" correctly. That to me says we are doing something (I'd say more than one thing) right. It probably helps a lot that we started to build bridges (I'm not talking about one in particular) instead of being on our own isolated island.
Drama has a way of bringing forward things that maybe haven't been said before, or they were but nobody really listened. So yeah, a little bit of drama won't hurt, other than some egos, potentially. In such situations, to better see the points being made would be to exclude the persons talking (including themselves should do that, if they can), and read the points of view (impersonal). In enough dramas, you will find that both sides have some points worth listening to, or at least some frustrations caused by something else. The immediate context may be more favorable to one side or the other, but it's rarely about the immediate context, is it?
Sometimes a drama starts over a pretext (which can be a very powerful one), but the real reason behind it might be conceptual disagreements.
The way I see it, people with different, even conflicting ideas can be well integrated into a decentralized system, and the system itself benefit from all of them, in different ways. That, of course, may lead to dramas here and there due to the conflicting points of view and the personalities involved, some more malleable than others.
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I think we cannot take away emotion and drama from a place like Hive. You and I have seen it play out severally and sometimes it's difficult for one party to take a stand and choose to be the logical one. Well, it's not necessarily bad, sometimes emotional reactions can be advantageous.
What would be social media without a little bit of drama, right? 😀
They can have a positive side besides the negative one. Some things can get clearer after a drama is over, plus some tension is released.
Haha, I feel that when the tension is released, people begin to see clearer and probably begin to regret some of the things they've said.
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I think it's depends. I think drama is unavoidable and it can be fun to watch things on the sidelines, but it isn't fun if it affects you. I think that the disagreements are bound to happen and sometimes that leads to better solutions. Nobody knows for sure though.
Good point. I agree.
What sometimes happens is that people say what they mean more during these drama times more than when they hold back. Other times it's the reverse. Depends from person to person I guess.
I think that's also how we really get to the bottom of things lol, since drama tends to make people reveal all sorts of things they may be hiding for quite awhile. In a decentralized setting, the mechanism seems a bit more interesting to me because both parties contribute to building the resilience of the ecosystem. Of course, not always, some may choose to walk away and never look back :)
Indeed! It's a way to say things that otherwise maybe wouldn't be said. Some maybe you'd regret later, others not.
I don't like the drama, it's an useless waste of time and I don't have time to waste when you can do better things tbh
Well, I'm not particularly fond of it either. It drains your energy even if you are on the sidelines, not to mention directly involved. But it's a way things get said that otherwise maybe wouldn't. Sometimes you regret what you say during such times, other times you don't, and it leads to better clarity, at least, on where everyone stands.
Some people love drama, my ex-wife would be queen of that category. Disagreements are unavoidable in any social setting, even here on Hive as there are many different points of view. Differing views are a net positive in my book, you can learn from them if you pay attention rather than just shutting them out. Great and well thought out post!
Oh yeah, I can understand that. Too much drama doesn't leave room for anything else. So, some is ok, too much can be exhausting and definitely counter-productive.
Well said! Besides, different views and interests are probably at the root of a decentralized system.