Healing, Growing, Becoming: The Power of Self-Reflection.
Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection, and I’ve noticed some real changes in the way I think and act. Some of these changes are good, while others have been a bit difficult to accept, but overall, I feel like I’m growing into a better version of myself.
One major shift I’ve seen in myself is that I now prioritize my peace of mind and well-being above anything else. In the past, I would bend over backwards just to please others, even if it meant hurting myself or going against my own values. But now? I choose myself first. And honestly, that’s something I’m really proud of.
For example, I have this friend—we’ve been really close for a while, and we’re even in the same department in school. But recently, I started noticing how toxic the friendship had become. He made it clear that because I’m not rich or someone who can financially support him, I’m not “useful” enough to stay in the same room with him. He even went as far as calling me stingy, which really rubbed me the wrong way. I won’t lie—it hurt. But at the same time, I’ve always known that this is the kind of person he is. He’s the type that leans heavily on others and never wants to put in the work himself.
Before now, I probably would have tried to hold on to the friendship. I would’ve begged or tried to explain myself, just to stay in his good books. But something in me has changed. I’ve outgrown the need to stay where I’m not valued. I’d rather be in a room full of strangers and take the chance to make new, genuine connections than stay around someone who only sees me for what I can offer and not who I truly am.
Another area where I’ve really changed is when it comes to relationships. I used to be that guy who thought having a girlfriend was the ultimate goal. I did so many things—some I’m not even proud of—just to be able to say I had a girl or to experience sex. It was like I based my value on whether someone wanted to be with me or not. But now, I see things differently. These days, I just want to be happy. I want to focus on my goals, build a solid future for myself, and stay away from distractions. If love comes along in the process, that’s fine—but I’m no longer chasing it like it’s something I need to survive.
Honestly, I’ve reached a point where I no longer care if people like me, choose me, or want to be my friend. I’m not desperate for anyone’s approval. I know who I am, and I’m learning to love myself more and more each day. That, for me, is a big win.
It’s not been the easiest journey, but this self-awareness and growth feel like freedom—and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Thanks for reading.
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That's just it o my dear.
It's really frustrating being or forcing yourself to be accepted where you're not valued.
The worst can be working in an organization where you put in your very best to grow yet the management staff keep seeing less and appreciation and motivation is absent.
You'll find it very unfulfilled continuing there.
When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable
I think the best answer is just to stay where you are appreciated and valued.
Humans are social creators. But unfortunately, sometimes it can be taken for granted. Some people force themselves to change in order to appear relevant to other people. But the truth is, becoming a social creature doesn't mean becoming someone's puppy. That's why I am beyond grateful knowing how you step out of your own traps.
Oh that's a good reflection! Surely that's the mark of someone maturing in life. 😉 Happy to know you've learned to value yourself. Next step would be to see yourself as a child of God. Following His footsteps is the best ever!