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RE: Not old, just older?
Sorry to hear of the challenges you've recently experienced and happy to hear your mother-in-law pulled through.
Strange as it may sound your post is a bit of a relief to be honest in a "glad to hear I'm not the only one kindof way".
"then something or somethings pop up and shake the foundation of life as you know it."
My brohter-in-law died suddenly last year and the shift in my own life/thinking has been dramatic.
He is the first of my generation in our family to pass. THere have been younger members who died in one offs and older members who died in what seemed "the natural order of things" but Martin was the first who was a similar age.
Since then I have struggled a lot with "what's it all about", "what's the point", "what do I want to do from here" kind of questions with no answers.
I wasn't prepared for another phase of life that I needed to learn to navigate. I knew I would get older of course and that phsyically I would have to slow down and make changes but I wasn't expecting such a dramatic shift.
I'm glad you found something in this. I felt like I was just kind of throwing a lot of random thoughts out there. It's definitely hard. I know what you mean about navigating another part of life. It's very bizarre. I think a lot of the things I have been focusing on lately are the impact that I have had. I don't think it has been great. I read all these nice things people say about other people and I don't feel like there will be so much of that about me. I need to fix that.
I get that too. However, I've found that comparing myself with others is really unhelpful and the thoughts about myself don't often reflect reality or what other people think of me. Especially when I'm struggling a bit. Also, I think we often have no idea of the impact we've had.
I learned that when I was coaching. Clients would often comment how helpful a session had been when I thought it was nothing special. And there were times when I felt I'd done a really good job and the client made no comment on it. And everything in between.
But, what do I know? I'm new to this and I guess we all have different things that concern us.
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