Why do Men Socialize Less as They Get Older? .:. WorkerBee PH-Pool Week 268
While I was scrolling on Facebook in search of a good meme or a funny video (yes, that's the main FB use case for me 😂), I bumped into a post, or better-said question that could be a gold mine of funny memes and quotes in the comment section... To my surprise, most of the comments were actually serious and very well grounded, which worked oppositely, reflecting on myself and my "socializing."
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I don't believe in astrology, but in all my life, I have acted exactly as they would describe a "typical" Virgo... 😂 Trying to do everything perfectly, always thriving into perfectionism... If something sucks, I would criticize, trying to find a better solution, or doing things in "proper way" (at least I was thinking it's proper 😂)...
Now, when you know all that, it's not hard to imagine that as I'm getting older, I'm turning into that "old grumpy guy" from movies or cartoons... 😂 Which leads into exploring the question of today's post... Why do men socialize less as they get older?
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Time becomes more valuable...
When you are young, you have all the time in the world... When you get older, you realize that the "biological" clock is ticking, and there is no time to be wasted... Because of that, many other things get OFF the list!
I remember I had a lot of patience in listening to people... Listening to their problems, issues, being there for everyone, trying to help out... Today, I do the same, but ONLY for certain people... I have no time to listen to someone complaining about the left or right, BMW or Mercedes, red or blue, that's just stupid... It's a waste of time for BOTH parties... I talked today with my mom, which went in that direction... Abruptly, I cut the topic and moved to something more valuable for both of us... I have no time to talk about corrupted, stupid politicians, or greedy bankers...
My mom knows my intentions, so she understands it, but someone else doesn't, and those people would like to continue talking about shit... Well, for them, I'm probably the guy who "socializes less" 😃... And I'm fine with that... Which leads to the next reason...
Don't give a shit...
This needs a bit of explaining... 😃 It's not that men don't care about anything when they get older, it's that they KNOW exactly what they care about! 😃 I heard so many stories, truths and lies, authentic and fake people, and with age, it's easier and easier to read between the lines... To see through the bullshit... 😃
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How many excuses did I hear? Oh, man... Especially in days when I was working with many clients... Or even with some "friends"... When you are younger, you try to change them, to get their respect, to make them better... But when you are older, you learned that it's impossible to do it... Some people are like that, they are likely to be negative, or it's their way of handling life... Investing our time in them is a pure waste of it... It will change nothing, and it will not benefit anybody... Instead of doing that, we should invest time in those people who appreciate it, who help us grow, and to whom we CAN help! Which leads to the next thing...
Honesty...
I was struggling to be honest with people in my younger days... Not because I was a liar, but because I didn't want to hurt their feelings, or to make myself enemies... Until the point when I realized that those people who are worth our time do appreciate honesty, and don't mind getting the "wakeup call"! I would say that we are back to the main point of using our time wisely... Being honest with friends makes your relationship stronger... Being dishonest is a waste of time...
I suppose I could write a lot more on this topic, but you get the main point of all this... Quality time spent with friends! That's what counts the most... Because of that, from the "outside" it looks like we socialize less as we are getting older, but in reality, we do socialize, but only with people we care about...
How about you? Did you notice you are changing your social habits as you are getting older? Pardon, getting more experienced... 😃
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There is so much noise and drama out there, and peace for me is priceless.
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That's true... But, there are other people out there who value peace too... Socializing with them could be beneficial :)
In that case, the right words would be selective socialization.
I think for myself, I socialize less due to the kids being grown and out of the house. You no longer have those kid centric activities that force more socialization due to their involvement. I find we have a smaller friend group, and it's those few friends that we tend to socialize a bit with. Couple of that with being self employed with less "work friends" and you have a scaled back social world view I believe.
You got some great points there! Maybe I went too much in phylosophy, and it is a rather simpler answer to the socializing question... Kids do take a lot of our time, and when they are gone, it leaves a space...
Good evening @ph1102 ... the topic of socialization is certainly interesting. I’m 57 years old, and I definitely notice that I socialize less and less every day. While I can't generalize my experience to everyone, I do feel that—with age—I’ve lost that eagerness to meet new people that I had when I was young. If I happen to meet interesting people, I’m happy about it, but I no longer actively seek it out.
Furthermore, I admit that I’ve become less tolerant of others. You could say that, in my case, I’ve truly turned into a "silent grump" (I don’t complain; I simply distance myself from whatever doesn’t interest me).
By the way, I have absolutely no idea what "PH-Pool" is.
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Thanks for sharing your point of view and your experience... I can't agree more with your observation as you described it better than I did in the post... 💪
I didn't think in that direction, but now that you said, I do like the "randomness" of finding interesting people... I suppose HIVE is one of the tools that gives us that opportunity... I met some great people here, and later had some drinks with them IRL... Speaking of that, it's one of the reasons I like HIVE meetups, just to get back to the table with people I met, and to meet some new, interesting ones!
Looking at the attendees list of #HODAlicante, I'm happy to see some people that I haven't met yet... Including you! See you soon!
Good evening, @ph1102 ... I agree that Hive is a wonderful place to meet very interesting people—at least, that has been my experience.
As for Alicante, I'll be arriving on the 1st for work, but I'll see you there.
Best regards.
Hola amigo @ph1102 tienes toda la razón después de 50 te dedicas a disfrutar cada momento y buscas no tener dificultades innecesarias por ego, es como un despertar te has dado cuenta que has estado bajo la influencia de un sistema de creencias de todo tipo que condicionan tu conducta. Muy acertada tu reflexión
muchas gracias por tu comentario... parece que esa cosa no es solo un mito, pero la realidad... apreciamos mas nuestro tiempo despues de 50!
Hehe that's an interesting observation. I agree with the point that there's no point spending time to change people, I don't think we would like it if someone tries to change us as well. Most of the time, the change has to come from within ourselves wanting to change.
As I grow older, I think I spend more time these days focusing more on improving myself, learning new things and skills, rather than socialising - no right or wrong - but it's more enjoyable for me.
Thanks for the update and tokens!
Yeah, I read somewhere the comment on this topic that said something like:
In older age, we KNOW EXACTLY what we want and like, so, normally, we act toward that direction.... ;)
I lost contact with many people that i would have called friends, if you are in trouble you learn your real friends and often find out that even family is something you just can't count on . So why socialise if people keep dissapointing you.
I'm trying to give people a chance, but when something as you explained happens, it's a waste of time invested in those people... Luckily, there are good peeps out there worth our time and care... ;)
Well, you mentioned "men", I don't know if it's so for women. I haven't been that much of a sociable person right from childhood, so it won't make any difference now that I'm getting older. 😂
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Well, I can't say that for women, but you surely can share your opinion... It looks like you are still young, as you didn't notice a difference! :)
You could be right or wrong. But when you're a dominant introvert, you'd understand what I mean. 😂
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I think I do socialize a bit less now that I am older. Maybe it's because I am not forced into a situation where I have to do that. Sure, there is work, but it's not like school/college where we are surrounded by so many people.
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You got the point there! Our "main" circle of interactions is tighter, and we have fewer possibilities to socialize more... On the other side, we could join some sports teams, hobby clubs, etc. :)
totalmente de acuerdo con lo que dices de que el tiempo es oro y mas cuando uno ya sabe lo que quiere en la vida grasias por compartir ese punto de vista tan real
uno se vuelve mas selectivo pero la calidad de las amistades sube muchisimo y eso es lo que importa al final del dia
totally agree with what you say about time being gold and more when one already knows what they want in life thanks for sharing such a real point of view
one becomes more selective but the quality of friendships goes up a lot and that's what matters at the end of the day
It's definitely quality over quantity! Priorities have changed!
I can relate to this, and I'm Virgo too. :)
Hehehehe... By looking in comments, it looks like it's not only us two... 😃
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I agree, we value time differently when we get older... I also could add that a certain age you can't be arsed to put all the effort from zero to start new relations but rather keep what you have
Hmmm... I wouldn't say it's not worth trying, but I do agree that I'm very "picky" with new relations... Much more than I was when I was younger...
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