Monetary Boundaries: protecting your finances and relationships #Loh282

Second is a Budget policy, a rule in giving monetary support. Extending financial support to family members may be a given, but in these difficult times our friends may find themselves in genuine need.

What resource boundaries, conditions, or rules do you have to limit yourself?

I have so many stories that resonate to these issues of giving out monetary support to a friend, that genuinely needs it.
I was raised to give so that I will receive or never lack or be in need, but it seems this has put alot of person's in situations they ought not to be in.

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There is this friend of mine I have known over 9year now, she studied nursing but has been into the business of selling women attires for some time.

She messaged me saying she was scammed by a new supplier and had already taken funds from some of her customer's which has put her in a very tight position, pressures coming from different angles.

It's obvious she needed funds to sort out those that are putting pressure on her, but I just ended up encouraging her at the moment and calling to check on her from time to time.

I have made it a point where if I lend you money, I espect you to always respond or let me know if you don't have at the moment. I believe you don't value me enough to give me that simple respect even if we are friends.

When you come to me with the impression that I have it all, you have complete right over my money and you think i don't have bills to pay, I give such person a strike.

In the case of my friend I would have given her the money but she did not request to borrow, she wanted me to gift her that money and i knew that even without her saying a word. I wish I had enough to gift her without her paying back.

There is a point you will get to in life that you will see value in almost everything you give out, it's more like creating a relationship that will yield fruit at the long run which is a good thing, especially when family responsibilities are on your throat.

So basically, i don't repeat thesame mistakes of lending out money to someone that refuses to pay back, neither do I give to someone I just met for the first few weeks , such a person I rather gift the little I know I can give out.

I always makes sure I don't withhold myself from giving financial aid to my friends if they are hungry, or stranded in a difficult situation, I withdraw from helping when I discover it's a continuous habit and you are not trying to do anything meaningful that will give you even a little bit of financial independence.

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