The Line Between Doing Too Much and Doing It for the Wrong Reasons

The two prompts resonates very well with my life lately, one about "Having enough time and doing too much lately" and the other about "Identifying activities I do out of guilt, fear or by choice". So I'll be sharing my thoughts on both prompts while I talk about my experiences and discoveries lately.

So for the first prompt "Are there any particular situations that make you feel like you're doing "too much" lately?"

One of my goals in the year 2026 is to change a lot of old habits and adopt new habits, so I'm literally changing my life starting from my mindset. And the prompt just made me realize that even the goals is me doing too much because I feel like I don't have all the time in the world to take it slowly or stay more unproductive.

But in taking actions with these goals, I think I am doing too much in learning. I know learning is great and I need to learn to grow from being a beginner but I'm slowly becoming a learner who just learns and learns, no applications is done or actions taken. So I do know I'm doing too much lately and I plan to limit it and take more actions.

I'm also aware I'm trying to ignore the things I am capable of, taking action is the only way I can know for sure what I can do and what I can not do. I'm very sure I'd be surprised with the things I can get done, create or the impact I can make when I start to take real actions but I want it to be more than wishes or thoughts but realizations.

And for the prompt "Which you do by conscious choice, would this lead you to accept whether it is urgent or important to you?"

Most of my life, I've done so many activities for fear of disappointing others and a lot of others out of guilt and that is because I didn't realize that people pleasing is a thing. I've shared it before that I didn't even know what self love really meant until I decided to start choosing myself and what I really think to do with my time.

Since that decision, I've done only a few things out of guilt or fear of being a disappointment but not after good thoughts on them to see that it won't really hurt the time I give to myself. I think prioritizing right, yourself first before you can care for others, helps you identify easily when what is urgent or important and matters for you.

I think I am more conscious of my choices now than I had ever been, that even if I do it out of guilt or fear of disappointing anyone, it is still my choice and I am proud of that thought. The thought that I have my own freewill and I'm using it in the way I want to, not by force (that's worse).