Hiding My True Self

I gave this topic a critical thought because I fall into that category of people who hide their true selves. Not because I intentionally want to, but because I do not want to become a burden to others. Sometimes, people see me in a different light and assume that I have a perfect life simply because I smile, I try to do things that helps me stay happy, I try to help others to the best ofmy ability, and carry myself calmly. They think that people who look fine are truly okay inside.

Personally, I do not like complaining or to feel pitied. I prefer to endure my pain quietly. But there are moments when i can no longer carry the burden alone. But, whenever I decide to complain a little, hoping to be understood, I will hear painful responses like, “If we complain, you complain too?” or “Why are you mocking us?” Those words cut deeply into my heart and make me withdraw myself. They make me feel misunderstood and discouraged making it hard for me to express my emotions again.

I remember about three weeks ago when I could no longer hold my pain inside. I burst into tears in public, and still I could not explain my true feelings to anyone. Some people asked me why I was crying at that moment, but after that day, nobody checked on me again or showed genuine concern. Then i realize why many people had choosen to hide their true selves from society.

I strongly believe that people and society contribute greatly to this problem. Many assume that anyone who looks happy, assists others, or smiles often does not need love, care, or emotional support. Forgetting that even the strongest looking people have one or two silent struggles they are battling with.

It is the duty of everyone in the community to encourage people to express themselves more honestly and openly by creating safe environments that is filled with love, kindness, and understanding. People should learn to listen without judgment, mockery, or comparison. Sometimes, all a person needs is someone who genuinely cares enough to listen and check on them consistently, not just for a moment.

People will feel safe enough to express their true emotions without fear when society stops assuming that appearance is equal to happiness, when society stop forcing people to hide behind fake perfection, only then will people feel more safe enough to express their true emotions without fear. In my humble opinion, it is only genuine love, and concern, that can help people heal and be able to accept who they truly are.

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