Forgiveness is not necessary for inner peace
Forgiveness is a great virtue, and people say that we should forgive others if we want to find the inner peace. In fact, on this platform, I have seen many people who strongly say that. I don't know if I am a different one or if there are many people like me. My thoughts related to forgiveness are not something like that. I never think that forgiveness can help me to find my inner peace. In my opinion, it's just a choice if I should forgive others or not. As long as I don't put any effort into revenge as long as I don't think too much about it, it never disturbs my mental peace as well as my inner peace.
Let me share a real example of it. Approximately 10 years ago one of my friends borrowed some money saying that he needed money for an emergency case. He was a close friend of mine, and I gave the money to him without thinking too much. He promised to return the money within two weeks, but he didn't return the money. His betrayal was kind of harsh, and I don't want to discuss it in detail because I already shared about it here a few times. For his betrayal, I never forgave him because he broke my trust and it's related to my finance, and I cannot let it go. Some people here suggested me to forgive him, and it's been essential for my inner peace.
It was kind of ridiculous suggestion to me. It also made me think that it's very easy to give lectures to others. They didn't suffer financial loss. So, it's very easy for them to forget about it. Besides, how can it help me to find my inner peace when I don't feel bother about the incident. The incident happened long time ago and with time I think it healed me also. I don't expect him to return the money at the present time, but at the same time, I don't want to make efforts to take revenge because of it.
My mental state is quite good and in case of inner peace I think it's not so very difficult for me and I'm living a happy life, but I didn't forgive that friend also. In the future, if I see him in a bad state, I will be happy for sure. Still, I am connected to him, but I don't consider him as my friend. I don't see anything wrong to be happy in his worse situation. I'm not thinking about revenge because it cannot give me too much benefit, but if in the future there is a chance that I can get good benefit by taking the revenge, I will go for it without any kind of hesitation and I will be very happy for that. It is kind of double satisfaction. Firstly, it was for my revenge and secondly, it's for my profit as well as my benefit.
I already say that forgiveness is my choice and I am the one who will decide whom to forgive and whom to not depend on what the mistakes or faults are and my interest. I think those people are weak, who cannot find the inner peace without forgiving. In fact, I strongly doubt that those people actually understand the inner peace.
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Some believe forgiveness gives them inner peace, some don't.
My pov; If someone hurts me, I will be deeply pained, it will hurt me more when the person is acting nonchalant towards it. For me to move on, I will first forgive myself for acting stupid and from that pain I gain more knowledge and become more wiser, even if I forgive that person, things will never be thesame again.
People saying forgiveness is for your inner peace and sanity, I feel is true. Forgiving someone doesn't mean you have entirely forgotten it, but it creates room to become wiser, even if the person finally repays your money, the damage has already been done, you can't make thesame mistake twice.
I don't know. I feel that as long as I don't think about revenge or make manual efforts it's ok for me. Those people who always think for revenge can't find the inner peace when for me it's not the case.
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