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RE: Is age just a number in relationships? my opinion
marriage remains the most important institution in our society. So I see this relationship decision as a sensitive issue that requires so many factors to be considered
Love this 👆🏽!
I know that maturity isn't determined by age
Very true and as I was reading I was thinking this very same thing.
I never really looked at age when I was desiring to be married. For me it was always about wanting a likeminded man whom I was equally yoked with. I’ve always been attracted to people around my age but the main factor was always making sure I only went for a God fearing man.
Reading your post makes one aware that the culture you’re in plays a big part in this. I’ve read before that it’s common for men (I’m sure it’s not all men but only some) in Africa to treat their wives as a child and have this high authority over them. It seems that if the mindset is already this way that age difference wouldn’t even matter because it’s already an issue.
I think about my grandparents and how people back then were marrying 20 years apart. I couldn’t imagine marrying someone 20 years older for reasons as you have stated in this post. I’ve always imagined me growing old with my husband and not having to take care of someone elderly who is aging way before me.
When all is said and done if you love someone and feel that person is right for you, the age factor is not an issue. But if you are going in for the wrong reasons and marrying just for financial sake then that’s where the problems occur and things will crumble.
I’m glad to know you are not seeking to marry just for financial stability. Go You! 😉🙌🏽
Nice read ~
Ayyy... This is so important! It is just too important that both individuals in a relationship share the same values and are equally yoked. And without God, I really don't know anymore.
Speaking of culture, yes, in a way it does look like the man should have authority of his wife and home. It's not exactly implied that way, but certain men take it too far, and then it becomes a problem.
That's another angle some people miss. But then, the relationship may be far from sweet.
I'd like to say that, yes, age shouldn't be an issue is the person is right, but I think it's entirely different with men's perspective. I think there are a lot of issues with a man marrying a woman that's 15 years older. What do you think?
Yes to this 👆🏽🙌🏽!!
Our household is ran biblically where my husband is head of our household. The difference is he doesn’t exhort his authority and belittle me. Instead he allows and values my opinions and sound advice and for that I am truly thankful and grateful. So I agree that the authority aspect can be sometimes taken out of hand and become a form of abuse/disrespect.
As far as the age is concerned of men marrying older woman I think it would be similar issues that arise just as for a woman marrying an older man. For instance the concerns of health with aging etc.
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You heard right ma, this is common among our African men. Some of them exercise their high authority over women especially when the age gap is much.
Same experience with my mum, and before my siblings and I started growing up, my Dad was already ageing and later died living only my mum to take care of us..
We have same mindset here... 💕😘
I agree with you ma, marrying rightly, not for wrong reasons saves the day despite the age
Wow... thanks for your thoughtful comment @crosheille . I really appreciate this
Oh wow. So your family experienced the effects first hand. Do you remember him? I guess my question is were you old enough to remember your dad?
Absolutely. Always a pleasure visiting your blog ~ 😊
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