RE: A Prisoner of My Own Social Inadequacies
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That’s difficult man, sorry to hear about those challenges. As I mentioned before sadly I have the same challenges myself. I would like to think that it’s perhaps the state of the world right now where people are aggressive and fight a lot, not sure exactly. I do know that after years of being on the outside of my friend group, I may have inadvertently found a friend from a place I used to work, a coworkers husband. I’ve been chatting with him for a few weeks now and it’s great to just have a conversation about things that isn’t with my wife, as great as she is, it’s not the same as with a friend.
In any case though, I think you just have to keep your chin up and stay strong. Being a man in these days is difficult as hell with the intentional forces out there to break us down and destroy us.
Have you considered trying to join a church or something? I know religion isn’t for some these days but there’s a lot of community around it if you find the right one and can be a good thing. Just a thought!
Yeah man, it's hard to explain to people that having a wife is not the same thing as having friends. As for finding a group, when I was in Northern California I joined a local fraternity that was centered around volunteer-ship, my goal was to make friends and do something good. It ended up being a job and I made no lasting friends. I was stationed in Asia for 7 years and became a Buddhist, I use to go to temples and try to meet up with other Buddhists, but it's not common to meet other white people that are real Buddhists. Every time I go to a Buddhist group I end up being some kind of oddity to all the people there and it's really weird. As sad as it sounds, I have considered going to join a Christian church and pretend I'm Christian just to make friends...
I hear you man, I'm religious but not of a particular denomination, kind of my own thing but I'm looking for ways to connect with people to make friends, sadly. I could likely fake it to do that I think!
I can imagine that being a white guy in a buddhist group is likely a situation where people that are legit. I know there are a lot of people who aren't genuine on stuff like that!
Do you have any neighbors that aren't shitbags?
Both my direct neighbors are upper middle class Mexican families that don't speak much English. House across the street is a cool dude, but wildly different interests. He thinks I'm hella richer than I am and is always telling me his new financial plans that sound like pyramid schemes. I think he may be an alcoholic too, I like to party but drinking alone is sad.