They Love Me… But Hate the One I Love

I never thought my heart could be this torn

You see, when people talk about love, they rarely talk about what happens when your heart and your blood family are on opposite sides. I met him during a phase when I wasn’t even looking. It was simple at first, a hello, a smile, deep conversations that turned into shared dreams. I didn’t just fall in love with him. I found peace in him. He made life softer, easier, calmer. For the first time in years, I could breathe.

But then came the storm: my family

From the moment they knew about him, everything changed. My mom, who’s always been my best friend, suddenly became cold whenever I mentioned his name. My siblings, people who knew how long I prayed to be genuinely loved, started questioning my choices like I was under a spell. My dad didn’t even hide his disgust. He said, “You can do better,” like love was something you pick from a shelf based on brand and packaging.

I cried. A lot. Not just for me, but for them too. I wanted them to see what I saw. I wanted them to look beyond his tribe, beyond his past, beyond their expectations. But all they saw was who he wasn’t, not who he is. And the more I tried to explain, the more they shut me out.

You know the hardest part? He’s never said a word against them. He tells me, “You don’t have to choose between me and your family. But I’ll never stop loving you.” That alone breaks me.

I’ve thought about walking away from him just to have peace at home. But then I remember the way he holds me when I’m anxious. How he prays for me before I sleep. How he listens, not just to reply, but to understand. And I ask myself, why should I lose someone who truly sees me, just to please people who refuse to see him?

So here’s what I’ve decided

I won’t force them to accept him. I’ll give them time, if they want it. But I won’t pause my life waiting for their approval. Love isn’t rebellion. It’s not betrayal. And if they truly love me, one day they’ll realize that.

Until then, I’ll keep walking forward with my heart open, my head clear, and my soul anchored in truth.

Because at the end of the day, this is my life. My love. My choice

Thanks for reading through! Bye

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